The holiday season can be stressful, and sometimes the stressors in a marriage can trigger couples to take action.
The number of divorce inquiries increases after Christmas. In January, you may notice more people discussing their plans to divorce. Christmas and New Year are times for celebration, but it’s also one of the busiest times for divorce solicitors and professionals. So why does this happen?
Stress from holiday time together can escalate existing marital problems.
The end-of-year holidays are a time for families to be together and enjoy each other’s company. However, the stress of holiday time together can escalate existing marital problems even further.
During this time of year, many couples experience financial strain or arguments over parenting schedules, among other issues.
Financial strains from the holidays exacerbate existing financial problems in a marriage.
While money can make or break a marriage. Money issues are a common cause of divorce. This means that if you have an unmarried couple having a tough time financially, they’re more likely to get divorced than a couple doing well financially.
Money problems can often lead to arguments and fights between couples. A lack of communication about money issues also contributes significantly to marital strife over finances.
New Year’s resolutions to end a bad situation or make a change may apply to a marriage.
People tend to be more distracted in December because of holiday preparations and activities such as Christmas shopping and wrapping presents for family members.
January is the first month of a new year; for many people, it symbolizes a fresh start.
The year begins when many people resolve to change their marital and personal lives. As a result, many people decide that they need to get out of their marriages once they have started them. Between late December and mid-February, most divorces are initiated because people are more likely to think about this change.
People are more likely to put off divorce until after the holidays.
Some people put off getting a divorce until after the holidays to not ruin the season for their family. Maybe they feel like they owe it to their children to give them a happy holiday season, or perhaps they just don’t want to deal with all the backfire from extended family members about why they’re splitting up and ruining Christmas. Whatever the reason, people are more likely to put off something until after the holidays if that something is unpleasant or inconvenient.
Allegedly, the gloomy winter weather affects an already fractured relationship.
January is a month known for the most depressing days. It’s the month when the weather is grey, temperatures are freezing, and snowfalls and blizzards are too common. With these gloomy days come higher divorce rates than any other month of the year.
One reason could be the correlation between sun exposure and happiness. People who have experienced depression know they feel better on sunny days than on gloomy, cloudy days. That happiness can translate into other areas of life, including relationships. So when the weather outside is frightful, you might feel less happy in your relationship.
Winter also tends to be colder and more stressful than any other time of year. This tends to put stress on relationships which, in turn, can lead to breakups or divorces. Stress can be hard on a relationship in general. It can lead to arguments and fights between couples who aren’t used to having so
As we began working on this article, we kept thinking of why people would want to wait until after the holidays before filing for divorce. After all, many people spend December focusing on what is really important in life—including their families. For those who have put off divorce because of love for family, compassion for their ex-spouse, or fear of the unknown future, it makes sense why waiting for a few extra weeks might help alleviate some of those concerns.
Also, with the start of a new year comes a flood of resolutions, including divorce-related ones. We’ve all heard of the saying, “break up like grownups”, and couples often take this as a sign that waiting until after the holidays is the right course for their relationship.
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